I just need an AU where Lucifer is Sam's abusive ex-boyfriend and Gabriel gets mightily pissed off at his big brother because 1) he saw Sam first, and 2) he knew his brother was a twat and he accepted that but hell no this family does not accept abusive twats. Maybe Cas is their half-brother who is in love with Dean but keeps it a secret because of all the Gabe&Sam&Lucy drama. Meanwhile Michael, the eldest, is in charge of running their house because dad does a lot of world-wide business and is in Japan for the year and he always forgets to call.
How the fuck is it offensive for asexuals to use the triangle symbol and the word queer? You might as well say we are offensive to amoebas for using the word asexual. And where are we supposed to be then? Are we just supposed to be isolated by ourselves, even the asexuals who are bi-, poly-, homoromantic or etc?? Asexuals (and aromantics let’s not forget them) are discriminated against just the same as any non-cisgendered and non-heterosexual/romantic person. The LGBTQ community is not some kind of VIP league of specially privileged people; if anything, I would think it would be welcoming of any others who are oppressed and discriminated against.
How is prejudice not oppression? Isn’t prejudice the root form of oppression? Racism and sexism are prejudice, and those are considered oppression. Right???
Ugh I just. I don’t even understand the reasoning here. I think the people who feel this way should maybe educate themselves a bit more before throwing a bitchfit?? It feels like they don’t know anything about asexuality.
Sorry I just had to vent.
UGH, STEPH, I’M RAGING WITH YOU.
I’ve gotten messages like this before, and it all boils down to, “YOU IDENTIFY AS A HETEROROMANTIC ASEXUAL SO THERE’S NO REASON WHY YOU SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO APPROPRIATE THE WORD ‘QUEER’ FOR YOURSELF WHEN YOU AREN’T OPPRESSED LIKE ACTUAL QUEER PEOPLE.” and it’s just like. the stupidest shit ever.
asexuals aren’t oppressed like a lot of homosexual and transgender members of the queer community, who are denied rights and receive direct and open discrimination, sometimes in the form of violence, because of their orientation. that’s true. instead, we are completely denied as a group of existing people. we don’t exist as far as the majority of the world is concerned, because the world is SEXUAL. language is sexual, behavior is sexual, identities are sexual—EVERYTHING BOILS DOWN TO PEOPLE WANTING TO GET BUSY. the only difference is who they want to get busy with.
but we are not sexual people.
WE DON’T MATCH THE STANDARD. yes, some of us can pass if we choose to, but our romantic inclinations are irrelevant, be they heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, aromantic, or whatever. we aren’t heterosexual, and some of us aren’t cisgender, so we have every right to be a part of the queer community if we want to be. the type of discrimination we receive may seem different, because we aren’t denied rights unless our romantic inclinations or our genders stray from the norm, but we are oppressed in that we are denied the validation to have a real identity.
I hate this stupid queer elitism bullshit. how are we supposed to help ourselves when we spend so much time picking fights about who has a right to be queer in the first place?
fuck this noise, man, I will call myself queer if I fucking want to, because the purpose of queer is to ally those who aren’t heterosexual, cisgender men and women against a society that politically and culturally denies us the acknowledgment that our identities are valid and the equal rights we want and deserve.
I would like to thank the both of you for finally presenting me with the rage necessary to register a tumblr. I’ve been putting it off because I argue with enough straight people on this topic that I don’t need any more in my daily life, but you alone have started a flame of gut-wrenching rage that I simply cannot stand idly by while you espouse your opinions on issues that aren’t your place.
So again, thank you for being so completely vile that I have no choice but to respond.
To start I would like to place my perspective on the table. I am a gay man. I have been kicked out of my parent’s home, and was ostracized by the great majority of my family shortly after coming out just a few years ago. In that time I have suffered physical assault that required medical attention. I have been held at knife point with death threats and have had to relocate to escape violence. I have lost friends, family, and am now too afraid to actively seek a healthy relationship all because I am gay.
I want you to keep this in mind when you read and no doubt respond to this, in order to place your opinions into perspective. I am not playing a game of elitism, and I am not going to discount your experiences. I am merely informing you of the horrors I’ve been through in the hopes that my argument carries enough credentials for you to consider legitimate enough to consider.
Now onto the meat of this post.
It isn’t a matter of queerer-than-thou it is a matter of you appropriating offensive slurs. If a white person were to label themself by the n-word members of the black community would be furious, and rightly so. The n-word specifically references a history of oppression by white people against black people, and ANYONE who is not a member of the black community has no right to reclaim that word. The same goes for sexist slurs such as b*tch and c*nt. Men have no right to empower themselves with words used against women; words that reference a history of oppression by men against women. Queer is no different. Queer specifically references a history of oppression by the heterosexist society against homosexual and transgendered people. It is not a hip new slang that any non-cis straight person can identify under. You may like to believe otherwise, but you would be both wrong and VERY HOMOPHOBIC in doing so.
Simply put queer literally means LGBT. Nothing more, nothing less.
It is not the stupidest thing ever to understand that words have meanings and that these meanings are important. What is stupid is thinking that you, an asexual person (heteroromantic no less) have ANY authority what-so-ever to tell queer people who are and are not queer. You are not queer. Asexuality is not queer. And it is very privileged of you to assume that you can simply call yourself anything you want without any sort of repercussions.
You are not queer, no matter how not-straight you are. I suggest you find some means of dealing with it because quite frankly I am not one to allow what few spaces queer people DO have begin focusing on people who are not queer. You are acting like a homophobic bigot, and it’s no doubt due to the vast amounts of straight privilege you get for being in a heteroromantic relationship which, by and large, is acceptable by society’s standards.
We don’t deny that you exist. We do however deny that you have access to our spaces. No, you do not simply gain access simply because you want to. Otherwise queer spaces would flooded by cis straight people demanding that we focus on the poor poor straight people. As you said, asexual people experience a different set of issues from straight people. So why are you so desperately attempting to be a part of our group? If we deal with different issues then merging the two would only dilute the focuses of each. Your rationale makes no sense.
Your romantic inclinations are VERY much relevant to this issue. They are the key issue in ALL of this. Because relationships are the primary way for society to identify people as queer, and react accordingly.Society doesn’t care how often, if ever, you have sex with your partner. It cares only that your partner be of the opposite gender from you, and that you both be cis gendered. If relationships didn’t matter then queer people wouldn’t be assaulted and attacked on a daily basis for holding hands in public. If relationships didn’t matter then there wouldn’t be such an emphasis on queer people to be straight or celibate.
Which brings up another issue, sexuality and your selfish hoarding of oppression based on it. Let me ask you, do you honestly believe that asexual people are the only ones marginalized for their sexual practices? Do you not realize that queer people are often encouraged to just not have sex because no sex is better than gay sex? How can you so callously imply that queer people are sexually privileged, when the ENTIRE queer populace is considered vile BECAUSE of our sexuality? You focus on us and act like sexual oppression is a simple dichotomy of sexual and asexual. It’s not. There is no sexual privilege, there is only HETEROsexual privilege. Otherwise I wouldn’t be considered the leading cause of AIDS and HIV in the world, as many queer men are.
You talk constantly about validity of identity and understanding. But you’re the one trying to take MY identity and repurpose it for yourself. You’re the one telling me that someone society will consider straight has every right to a slur that was directed at me while three people assaulted me with baseball bats. You’re the one refusing to understand that queer people have EVERY RIGHT to refuse access to anyone who is NOT queer, and deny you access into groups that do NOT focus on you.
We are not the bigots here.
[all the bolding/italicising of harmonioussanctity’s post is mine]
Did… did you even bother reading what Steph and Rev wrote?
Did you even bother reading what YOU wrote?
The first thing you say is that because (you believe) asexuals don’t have a spot among the ranks of the queer-identifed folk, asexuals are not allowed to have or state opinions about it.
“I simply cannot stand idly by while you espouse your opinions on issues that aren’t your place”
Mmmmk. So when straight, religiously conservative people say that gay people should not have the right to marry, you are simply not allowed to have an opinion on it because you are gay, and religious marriage is therefore not your place according to them.
“So again, thank you for being so completely vile that I have no choice but to respond.”
Because directly insulting the people you are trying to persuade is definitely the best way to win supporters of your cause and to convince those people to agree with you.
“I am not playing a game of elitism […] my argument carries enough credentials for you to consider legitimate”
I actually do not understand this part. At what point did Steph or Rev say, “I won’t consider anybody’s opinion unless they’ve been through terrible things!”?
Oh, wait. That’s part of your argument. Oh, okay. Yes, you are playing a game of elitism. “I’ve been through bad shit, so my opinion is more correct than yours!”
Well, I’m not playing. I’m not quite at the level you’re at, but I have at least a few experiences dealing with physical/sexual violence and lost friends/romantic posibilities because of my asexuality that might make you to “consider [my argument] legitimate enough to consider.” (No, I literally do not understand that.) But you’ll have to take my word for it because I’m not playing the pity party game, and also I don’t know you, and thirdly I am not going to entrust you with any information about things that have hurt me in the past because I have reason to believe you’re going to outright attack me the way you did Steph and Rev.
“It isn’t a matter of queerer-than-thou[;] it is a matter of you appropriating offensive slurs.”
Well, but it is a matter of queerer-than-thou. Because if we are not “queer enough,” then you are going to say we’re appropriating offensive slurs instead of saying, “You’re joining a supportive community.”
The “supportive” part of that is debatable.
“It is not a hip new slang that any non-cis straight person can identify under. You may like to believe otherwise, but you would be both wrong and VERY HOMOPHOBIC in doing so.”
Wait, did you mean “…that any cis straight person…”? Because if someone is non-cisgendered, I’m pretty sure they do count as queer, especially if they identify as transgender.
And the word you’re looking for is not “homophobic,” but “ignorant” or “misinformed” or possibly “disrespectful”—IF, that is, you were correct. But you are not correct, and also Rev and Steph are anything but homophobic. Homophobia is not the same thing as making (what you see as) “an error” and using the “wrong” term for oneself in hopes of connecting with an accepting and supporting community and wanting to accept and support the members of that community in return.
I mean, call me homophobic if you want. But I’ll just call you a fucking idiot in return. As someone who has suffered at the hands of true homophobia, I would expect you to know better than to use that term lightly. Then again, you seem to be more aggressive and emotionally volatile than even I am, and that’s quite a feat, so perhaps I am not so surprised.
“It is not the stupidest thing ever to understand that words have meanings and that these meanings are important.”
No, but it IS the stupidest thing ever to use the word “stupidest” in an aggressively offensive message that actively attempts to oppress people instead of just clicking the “back” button and going to another fucking website.
“What is stupid is thinking that you, an asexual person (heteroromantic no less) have ANY authority what-so-ever to tell queer people who are and are not queer.”
YES. ONLY QUEER PEOPLE CAN TELL QUEER PEOPLE WHETHER OR NOT THEY ARE QUEER.
You see, there was once the Big Queer who started it all, and the Big Queer would strictly judge each newcomer who wished to identify with the “queer” label based on a multiple-choice test and a series of herculean tasks, including the famed “javelin-toss-across-a-crocodile-and-piranha-infested-moat-into-the-main-courtyard-of-a-15th-century-castle” which accurately predicted whether or not you were capable of becoming one of the Big Queer’s Queerness-Judging Apprentices.
As time went on, the process became less cut-and-dry and more informal, and the Queerness-Judging Apprentices grew into Masters and took on their own Apprentices, who then learned to judge queerness based on their Masters’ personal preferences. The cycle continued for many years until the official titles of Master and Apprentice were dropped, and the whole process has devolved into a person who is readily accepted into the queer community eyeing somebody else over and saying, “Hmmm….yeah, no, you’re not queer. Try again in ten years.”
But anyway, the reason asexuals have no authority to tell queer people who is queer and who is not queer is that they don’t have an Apprentice ancestor because the Big Queer started the whole process before asexuality was accepted as a sexual orientation instead of written off and treated as a sexual disorder.
Oh, wait, that never happened?
…including asexuality no longer being ignored and treated like a sexual disorder?
Who DOES get to judge?
“You are not queer. Asexuality is not queer.”
OH!! YOU get to judge! Oh, thank god. I need a gay man who insults my friends and who has never met me and doesn’t know how I feel or what I’ve been through and doesn’t seem to understand asexuality at all to tell me whether or not I am queer.
Thank fucking god I’m not allowed to make a choice. It’s so difficult to decide which group to be ostracised by—be ostracised by the majority, or be ostracised by the minority group that could have otherwise afforded me support in the same way and because of many of the same issues for which I have always afforded support to that group and its members.
“And it is very privileged of you to assume that you can simply call yourself anything you want without any sort of repercussions.”
What? I don’t. Privileged? What???? WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY?
Fine. Fuck this. If I’m going to be privileged, I’m going to take this to the extreme. I am the new Big Queer and I GET TO DECIDE WHO IS QUEER AND WHO IS NOT QUEER and you know what? Nobody else gets to decide. And you, because you’re an asshole who goes around picking on people who aren’t even fucking talking to you and didn’t ask you for your opinion, YOU DON’T GET TO BE QUEER.
Because it is very privileged of YOU to assume that you can simply decide on the behalf of all queer people everywhere who can or cannot identify as queer, and you cannot simply speak for the entire queer community any way you want without any sort of repercussions. And the repercussion is that I revoke your queer identity until you grow up.
I don’t get to tell you whether or not you’re queer? Because I’m not the Big Queer? Because there is no Big Queer, and no one person can speak on the behalf of the entire queer community?
Alright, I take it back. But you have to keep in mind that it applies to you, too. Get off your high horse GET OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE BECAUSE I THINK YOUR CINCH BELT IS LOOSE AND IF YOU FALL I WON’T HAVE YOU SUING ME IF YOU CRACK YOUR HEAD OPEN ON MY BLOG. YOU SIGNED A LIABILITY WAIVER. I REFUSE TO PAY YOU IDIOT’S COMPENSATION.
”I am not one to allow what few spaces queer people DO have begin focusing on people who are not queer.”
Remember that chat we had about you not getting to decide for everyone? Yeah, that.
Also, a lot of the things queer people have to deal with is focused on people who are not queer. Queer people regularly have to fight to be recognised and to have their rights and humanity respected and honoured. And if someone you think is not queer is joining you in this battle, maybe you should be a little more respectful to them. You don’t get to decide what labels they use for themselves. You. Don’t. Control. Other. People. Sorry Bro.
“acting like a homophobic bigot,”
Please look up the meaning of those two words, “homophobic” and “bigot”
“and it’s no doubt due to the vast amounts of straight privilege you get for being in a heteroromantic relationship which, by and large, is acceptable by society’s standards”
Again, I’m going to have to ask you to do a little research. Just ask asexuals exactly how their relationships (regardless of romantic orientation) fit with society’s standards. Ask asexuals who choose not to have sex how acceptable their relationships are by society’s standards, or how people (potential partners, even) react when they inform them they do not want to have sex.
Many asexual-sexual relationships are a far cry from the norm or from what society would generally say is acceptable, and the same goes for many asexual-asexual relationships. Just because someone or someone’s relationship passes for heteronormative doesn’t mean it is and it doesn’t mean those people forcibly cannot be queer.
“We don’t deny that you exist. We do however deny that you have access to our spaces.”
BECAUSE I SWEAR TO GOD IF YOU HAVE A FUCKING FORTRESS IN ANTARCTICA THAT YOU HAVE BEEN HIDING FROM ME BECAUSE I’M NOT QUEER ENOUGH, I WILL FUCKING HUNT YOU DOWN AND STEAL THE NEXT BOAT TICKET OUT THERE.
I WANT TO GO TO FUCKING ANTARCTICA. FUCK.
Also, who is this “we?” Are you speaking in the royal plural, or are you trying to represent the entire queer community once again? Because stop that.
“If we deal with different issues then merging the two would only dilute the focuses of each. Your rationale makes no sense.”
No, what? WHAT? YOUR RATIONALE MAKES NO SENSE.
Some of the problems asexuals face are separate from some of the problems other members of the queer community face; it’s true. But not all the problems are entirely separate, and a lot of them are actually extremely similar. If a man tries to “fuck a lesbian straight,” that’s a hate crime based on queerness. So why was it different when a man tried to “fuck me sexual?” Or was that “just” attempted rape because I am not queer enough for you?
And regardless, does that mean there is a separate community for each label that falls under the queer umbrella? There’s one transgender community, one gay community, one lesbian community, one multigendered community, one bigendered community, one bisexual community, etc etc etc? Because if you merge them, it would dilute the focuses of each? Because face it, trans* people face a different set of problems than do gay/lesbian cis people. Do you truly believe that the combination of the other LGBT-alphabet-soup people has diluted the queer community and the queer rights movement, or do you believe that together we are united and we can more effectively work on issues regardless of whether they affect only a few subgroups or nearly all of them?
Because if you don’t see how unity bolsters progress, just… what planet do you live on?
“Because relationships are the primary way for society to identify people as queer, and react accordingly.”
So if society can’t identify you as queer, you are not queer.
So a trans*man who passes 100% and has a girlfriend is not queer because society can only see a man and a woman together.
And a bisexual female who is in a relationship with a male is not queer because society can only see a man and a woman together.
OH WAIT THAT IS THE BIGGEST LOAD OF SHIT I HAVE EVER HEARD.
Oh nevermind, you contradict yourself in the next few sentences, it’s okay:
“[Society] cares only that your partner be of the opposite gender from you, and that you both be cis gendered.”
Right, but what if you both appear to be cis-gendered? Are you magically privileged then?
“Society doesn’t care how often, if ever, you have sex with your partner. “
This is wrong, because…..
“If relationships didn’t matter then there wouldn’t be such an emphasis on queer people to be straight or celibate.”
Ah, look, see? Everything boils down to sex. For some reason, people care intimately about whether or not other people are having sex. Nobody cares if two men are friends, but suddenly if they start having sex, it’s bad. The thing about being queer is not “you must be celibate” because I PROMISE YOU the message that the ENTIRE WORLD is screaming out is not “YOU MUST BE CELIBATE” but “YOU MUST HAVE SEX…. but only with the people who I think are okay for you to have sex with, and only in the manner I think is acceptable.”
And the “YOU MUST HAVE SEX… BUT—-” affects asexuals negatively, too, sometimes to the tune of physical/sexual violence, often to the tune of dismissal of asexuals or active denial of asexuality existing, and occasionally to the tune of legal problems and/or incorrect medical diagnoses and treatments that are ultimately detrimental to the mental and physical wellbeing of the person.
“sexuality and your selfish hoarding of oppression based on it. Let me ask you, do you honestly believe that asexual people are the only ones marginalized for their sexual practices?”
When the fucking hell did anybody say that ONLY asexuals are marginalised for their sexual practices?
And since when are we hoarding it? OH MY GOD. GIVE ALL THE SEXUALITY-BASED OPPRESSION TO ME. NO NO I REFUSE. YOU CANNOT BE OPPRESSED. ONLY ME. PLEASE OPPRESS ME MORE. I AM SELFISH. ONLY I CAN BE OPPRESSED.
“How can you so callously imply that queer people are sexually privileged, when the ENTIRE queer populace is considered vile BECAUSE of our sexuality? You focus on us and act like sexual oppression is a simple dichotomy of sexual and asexual.”
No, what? What? Did you even read what they wrote? DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT?
Especially in this particular instance of whether or not someone is “allowed” to identify as queer, I think there is a great importance placed on asexual vs. sexual. You are saying that being asexual isn’t non-hetero(sexual)normative enough to “qualify” as queer, and that in order to “qualify” as queer, one must either be sexually deviant from the norm, or one must be asexual AND something else—asexual AND trans*, asexual AND homoromantic, etc. I wouldn’t call this sexually privileged, but it’s something important to note, at least.
As far as the global sexual privilege goes, yes, I would argue that it does exist. Are queer people privileged in the respect that their sexual preferences or activities are frowned upon by the majority? Not at all, and nobody was saying that.
“There is no sexual privilege, there is only HETEROsexual privilege.”
There is sexual privilege, and especially heteroSEXUAL privilege. Heterosexual privilege does not favour the people in the queer community, and I am deeply sorry for the pain it has caused anyone. But sexual privilege does not appear to exist to you because you have lived your entire life in the thick of it because 97-99% of the entire world lives, breathes, acts, and communicates within sexual privilege.
How would you feel if a cis, straight person who was raised in a town full of cis, straight people plus one gay man (named Murray for this example) said to you, “Heterosexual privilege doesn’t exist?”
You would fucking rage. I know this because you are raging at my friends for something far less critical and something that really isn’t any of your fucking business anyway if you’re going to act like that.
But no, you would tell them that there is systemic heterosexism that actively oppresses non-heterosexual people, and you would cite all the ways, but these people would stare blankly back at you and say, “But everyone is fine and happy and we don’t have any of those problems in this town. There’s no way heterosexism exists because that would make people unhappy.”
And you’d say, “But what about Murray?”
And they would say, “Oh, well, that’s just Murray. He’s different. If he’s complaining about things, it’s just because he’s not the same. Plus, we put everything to a vote and we create everything including newspapers and films and stories and school lessons and advertising and billboards to a vote, and they are always approved by at least 97% of people, so it’s definitely unfair to say we’re operating on a heterosexist system.”
Okay? Now, all of the world operates on a sexual system. If you are not sexual, there is something wrong with you. You get sent to doctors. People make fun of you. People tell you to get your hormones checked. If you do, they tell you to do it again. People try to force you into therapy. People tell you that you’re a repressed homosexual. People say this and that and the other thing, and then some people are awesome enough to try to rape you to prove that you really are sexual, and some people are even more awesome and they threaten to kill you.
But assuming you don’t tell anyone, it’s still there. Every television programme, every book, every conversation, every film, every news report, EVERYTHING is created by sexuals and everything includes the sexual language that is lost on many asexuals. Asexuals are barraged 24/7 with sex, sexuality, and sexiness. The way asexuals relate to the world is not the same as the way sexuals relate to the world. I know this because I cannot fathom being sexual and my sexual friends cannot fathom being asexual. And since only 1-3% of the population is asexual, and it’s so easy to ignore or write off as “not having found the right one yet” or “a sexual disorder” or “hasn’t had an orgasm yet” or “late-bloomer” or whatever, asexuals are ignored. No, they aren’t ignored. They don’t exist. And when they try to exert their existence, to insist that they are here and they do exist and there is not something wrong with them, they are met with a huge resistance on all sides.
The sexual privilege, then, is being recognised as existing. It might not seem like much to you because you are used to being recognised as existing even though you deviate from the norm (and, unfortunately, you are sometimes hurt because of this deviation), but being completely denied by the whole of society, by the media, being met with “That simply doesn’t exist because of X Y and Z, you MUST be sexual, there is another explanation” at EVERY turn and not just by select individuals, that is how asexuals are NOT privileged in respect to sexual people.
“You talk constantly about validity of identity and understanding. But you’re the one trying to take MY identity and repurpose it for yourself.”
No, that’s not what’s happening. What’s happening is that you are trying to deny our identity as queer, should we choose to use that label. You are not validating the asexual identity, and you make no attempts to understand the problems asexuals face. You are not Queer—and by that, I mean, you are not the be-all end-all of queerness and you are not the only one who is queer and queer is not YOUR identity solely but it is a shared identity by many and you’re trying to make this all about you, you, you. It’s not.
And make no mistake: I don’t want your identity. I don’t want to be you. You’re kind of a bastard. But if I want to be included in a group of non-hetero(sexual)normative people based on my asexuality, and I want to support those members and be supported by those members, it is my right to make that decision to use the label or not. It is not your right to refuse me the label, and it is not your right to attack my friends and my sexual orientation simply because you feel like you are the king of the queer world.
“You’re the one telling me that someone society will consider straight has every right to a slur that was directed at me while three people assaulted me with baseball bats.”
Yep! That IS what I’m telling you. Society might consider me straight, but I had someone call me queer while chasing me down the street in the middle of the night after I refused to have sex with him!
And I’m also telling you that a trans person who appears to be in a male-female relationship and would therefore be considered straight by society has the right to be part of a supportive community that will try to understand their difficulties and help however it can.
AND I don’t really understand your argument, because if someone attacks a heterosexual cis person and happens to call them queer, does that mean that person gets to be queer? Because someone used that word against them? In that case, I get to call myself a whole SLUE of words that don’t actually apply to me!
“You’re the one refusing to understand that queer people have EVERY RIGHT to refuse access to anyone who is NOT queer, and deny you access into groups that do NOT focus on you.”
But you’re the one refusing to understand that heterosexual people have EVERY RIGHT to refuse access to anyone who is NOT straight, and deny you access into groups that do NOT focus on you! Oh, wait…
“We are not the bigots here.”
Again with this “we.” Shut your mouth. You’re putting an entire community to shame with your hateful words. Also, PLEASE USE A FUCKING DICTIONARY.
Bigot: one who is obstinately convinced of the superiority or correctness of one’s own opinions and prejudiced against those who hold different opinions
Thank you. There is so much amazing in this response, and it must have taken forever, so thank you.